A good nights sleep is such a gift. I slept for ten hours last night. It felt like a miracle waking up truly rested and truly awake. After breakfast I opened my email and a friend sent me this photo. It's going to be a good day.
Some of us will gather with family and friends, some will go shopping to take advantage of sales and most of us are grateful for an extra day off on a lovely spring weekend. While we enjoy ourselves let's remember to teach our kids why Memorial Day was created in the first place.
Some days only pasta will do. It's super simple to cook my favorite macaroni (stir into boiling water, cook eight minutes, drain), toss in some microwaved marinara sauce from a jar. Just add a sprinkling of grated Romano or Parmesan cheese and I'm in business. Comfort in a bowl!
Today was a broccoli and pasta day. Easy, fast and oh, so satisfying, it's what's for dinner after a long, challenging day. I found this recipe a million years ago in a wedding present cookbook, Foods of Italy.Giuliano Buglialli was a celebrity chef before the Food Network ever existed, no wait...before cable even existed. Wow.
To feed four to six people (this dish is great leftover) here's what you do...Gather together:
Two or three heads of broccoli, cut up
About 1/3 cup olive oil more if you like
One pound dried linguine
Three cloves garlic, chopped
Basil, fresh is best, dried is fine
Grated pasta cheese, Parmesan, Romano, Asiago, whatever
Bring a big pot of water to boil for the pasta. As that heats up, in a little sauce pan, warm up the olive oil with the garlic and basil until the garlic turns golden brown. Set that aside. Back to the big pot of boiling water...Snap the linguine in half and throw it in the boiling water. Let it cook for about five minutes, stirring once in a while. Then add the broccoli, stir it in. Let the broccoli and pasta cook together for three minutes or until the pasta in al dente. Drain it all through a colander. Put the broccoli pasta mixture in a big bowl, add the olive oil and toss. You can throw in some roasted pignoli nuts to fancy it up. Sprinkle the pasta with the grated cheese and mange !
It is in my nature to find the positive in just about anything so it pains me when the evidence is to the contrary and I have to deliver the not so good news...he's just not that into you.
This happened when a woman around my age came to me at the encouragement of the couples therapist she was seeing with her estranged husband.
After twenty years of marriage, and after their youngest kid went off to college, he decided to let her know that he hasn't been "in love" with her for years. She's a home body, he's a motorcycling hell raiser. She's a Volvo, he's a Harley. She's predictable and boring, he's an exciting adventurer. (Actually he's a dentist in the suburbs.) Oh, and he's leaving her to live in a loft in the city.
Is this a mid-life crisis? Maybe, or maybe he's just a narcissistic jerk. Either way, her life was traumatically torn apart at the point where she was most vulnerable. While this scenario may sound like a cliche, it's anything but to the women, and men, living through it. In this particular case, more and more evidence piled up that the husband had been acting selfishly throughout the marriage, while she voluntarily set aside her ego to feed his.
My advice to her? Get mad. And, this is important, use the mad, not to rant at him, but to take responsibility for herself and, even more productively, to find her lost self-esteem. It took some time, but she managed it. After the divorce, she discovered her inner travel bug and now thinks nothing of trekking around the Patagonian glaciers with her close (divorced) friends. Who's the adventurer now?
This little guy is on a tiny ceramic dish my sister gave me a year or so ago. It rests on my home office desk to make me smile if I get too caught up with work. Isn't she sweet? Don't you admire her moxie?
***** For all of us who have been knocked around by life (and who hasn't?) and still get up to duke it out another day.
Here's an interesting article. It suggests some contractors (usually men) have sought therapy to help them deal with the "rage, frustration and pain" of customer relations. Tough guys with power tools seeking the help of a shrink? Yes. Just like in every profession there are good ones and bad ones but we tend to only remember the bad ones. Since I belong to a profession that also gets a bad rap because of a few nut cases (OK, maybe not so few), I understand the frustration. We're all judged by the actions of the least competent in our ranks. Because it suggests intelligence and guts, my guess is it's only the top grade contractors who seek the help of a therapist. The rest just don't bother show up.
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